Full-Time Parenting: A Guide to Family-Based Discipleship

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A typical working parent spends just 19 minutes a day looking after their children. In contrast, many children spend about 6 hours per day in school, plus over 7.5 hours per day in media consumption. Add to that the time children spend with their friends or on extra-curricular activities, and it is clear that most American children are not truly being raised by their own parents.

Consequently, studies indicate that as many as 65-88% of all Christian youth leave the faith around their freshman year of college (or before) and never return).

Increasingly, many parents are determining to take back the raising of their own children. They are not content to be a part-time babysitter for their child. They want to be Full-time Parents. Learn how to take the steps towards becoming a Full-time Parent, or learn how to be a better one.

Chapters Include:

Introduction
Be the Parent
How I Taught My Children to Sit Still and Be Quiet
The Seven-Year Teaching Method
The Father’s Role
Child Training
Helping the Hyperactive Child
The Perfect Family Syndrome
Family Culture vs. Pop Culture
Techno-Parenting
Keeping Your Marriage Strong
Teaching Your Children about Purity
Hospitality: It’s Not Just for Women Anymore!
Living on One Income (by Brook Wayne)
Considerations Before You Start a Family Business
A Christian Education Manifesto
Christian Schools vs. Homeschooling
Comfort & Advice for Single Parents (by Skeet Savage)
Why Some Children Leave the Faith
Passing the Baton
Parenting by Grace

“Israel is committed to serving others with integrity and diligence. He truly cares about the families he serves.” Tracy Klicka (Author, Christian Leader, Mother of Seven)

Additional information

Weight 0.6 lbs
Dimensions 9 x 6 x 0.5 in
Paperback

160 pages

ISBN-10

0972813950

ISBN-13

978-0972813952

Product Dimensions

8.7 x 6.1 x 0.5 inches

Shipping Weight

8 ounces

Publisher

Wisdom's Gate Ministries (2012)

6 reviews for Full-Time Parenting: A Guide to Family-Based Discipleship

  1. 5 out of 5

    My first thought, upon reading the subtitle to Israel Wayne’s Full Time Parenting, was that “A Guide to Family-Based Discipleship” is rather a bold claim for such a thin book. But my doubts didn’t even survive an initial skimming of the first few pages. This is a real gem of a book; a refreshingly-simple manual of a few interrelated Biblical principles that can transform any family who puts them into practice.

    My pastor, Dr. S.M. Davis, once told me that almost all true wisdom is so simple that once you understand it, you wonder why you never knew it before. This book is full of such nuggets. Brilliant in its simplicity, Full Time Parenting presents even new or seemingly-complicated parenting principles in a natural, straight-forward way that will make them seem as familiar as an old friend.
    In short, Full Time Parenting works, not in spite of its simplicity, but because of it. Raising children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord requires diligence, but it does not have to be difficult.

    In Full Time Parenting, Israel Wayne shows how any parent can apply Scriptural principles of child-rearing in a sustainable way. Even parents who are already doing a good job of applying these principles will benefit from this remarkable presentation of them. I highly recommend Full Time Parent for any Christian parent.

    –Matthew Lewis (Homeschool Enrichment Magazine)

  2. 5 out of 5

    Some books are encouraging

    Some books are enlightening

    Some books are convicting

    Some books propel you to do better.

    Full-time Parenting is one book that fits all the above.

    This well written and well-rounded book hit quite a few areas that I thought I had ‘down’ and showed me where I could improve…and how to go about doing that. I was convicted many times. But, instead of feeling that I needed to run and hide, I felt encouraged to stand up and try again.

    First of all, what is a full-time parent? According to author, Israel Wayne:

    “Parents who choose to be a full-time parenting team desire to take as much responsibility for the care and upbringing of their children as they possibly can….Full-time parents look for every opportunity to teach and train their children in the ways of the Lord, just as they are commanded in Deuteronomy 6.”

    This book has so many great tidbits of information and encouragement covering a wide range of parenting topics. From a Father’s role, dealing with Pop Culture, marriage, purity, living on one income, considering a family business, education, single parenting, why children leave the faith and much more!

    I appreciate Israel’s straightforward, yet humours and gentle approach to these topics. In the practical chapter on teaching your children to sit still and be quiet, he says,

    “It is not always important for children to sit still and be quiet. They are children and should be allowed to play, have fun and be noisy. We don’t want them to be miserable during their whole childhood. But they do need to learn how to quiet down and behave appropriately in certain situations.”

    From the chapter on the hyperactive child:

    “The goal of parents is to work with the child’s God-given energy, not destroy it…..Know the difference between being active and being unruly.”

    Suffer from Perfect Family Syndrome?

    “Plan on experiencing failures. The good news is you don’t have to stay there. WE don’t embrace a message of defeat but, rather, one of victory that says, “Sure, you’re a mess right now, but you’re growing.”

    I especially gave a wholehearted ‘hear hear’ to the chapter on Techno Parenting and how to use it with a biblical worldview. This is one of the reasons why I don’t agree with a total online approach to educating my kids!

    “I guess my greatest concern about online and computer education is that it can become a substitute for the parents, which is what we are trying to avoid by training to be full-time parents. Because our main goal is discipleship, we should be more concerned with relationships and winning the heart of our children than we are with teaching academic concepts. A computer or another teacher online or via video can, perhaps, teach our children just as well or better than we can, but are we sure that is the approach we want to take? I am not opposed to supplementing education with multimedia – I think it can be very beneficial – but I am against replacing parental involvement with an impersonal and morally deficient machine.”

    Israel brings up some things to consideration before starting a family business. These are things I never thought of before and admittedly I had quite a gold-covered vision of what this would be like for my family PRIOR to reading this chapter!

    “First of all, starting a home-based business must be something that is spirit-directed and controlled or it will inevitably be a disaster. You need to find work that allows you to balance all of life: your relationship with God, your family, and your friends, ministry, finances, long-term personal goals, parenting goals, and evangelistic and discipleship opportunities. Never let one of these factors exclude the others. They are all important. God wants your life to be integrated to maximize your effectiveness for His Kingdom.”

    Christian Education Manifesto contains example after example of a Biblical view of the training and education of children backed up with PLENTY of scripture. WOW!!!

    “Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit? A student is not above his teacher, but everyone who is fully trained will be like his teacher” Luke 6:39-40 Christian parents must not turn the leading of their children over to someone who is spiritually blind. Education is discipleship. The students is becoming like the teacher. Do you want your child to become like his atheist teacher?”

    The chapter on advice for single parents is VERY thoughtfully written:

    “Faithfulness and consistency based on Biblical principles will go a long way toward establishing a solid relationship with your children that will not easily be shaken. Much healing takes place when the peace of God reigns unhindered in your midst. When just a little girl, my youngest came to me one day asking, “A lady at church said that us girls come from a broken home. We’re divorced but our home’s not broken. We used to be broken, but not anymore!” Out of the mouth of babes! There’s no sense of lack when Jesus is held in honor as the head of a household.”
    My husband even read most of this book. Now, for him, that’s a BIG thing. He’s never read a parenting book outside of the Bible! He started on the chapters on education and went from there. He said the book was very well written, easy to read, Biblical and right on!

    We both highly recommend Full-Time Parenting!!

    — Lisa Keva

  3. 5 out of 5

    After lis­ten­ing to Israel Wayne at the Spar­tan­burg Teach Them Dili­gently Home­school­ing Con­fer­ence this year, I was com­pelled to read his book “Full-Time Par­ent­ing : A Guide To Family-Based Dis­ci­ple­ship”. Israel is the prod­uct of a divorced par­ents, phys­i­cally abused by step-father and with a mom that was not a believer in Christ. Yet through all of this he shows how God’s Grace can change everything.

    We can­not care for these chil­dren, born of our flesh, with the strength of our flesh. We must learn to par­ent through the empow­er­ment and wis­dom of God’s spirit (pg. 32)

    Using prac­ti­cal advice straight from the Bible, Israel encour­ages “hands-on & first-person” con­sis­tency in par­ent­ing, espe­cially with mul­ti­ple chil­dren in the fam­ily. He reminds us that all areas of life have a direct impact on the future gen­er­a­tions to come. He also cov­ers the use of tech­nol­ogy and the prin­ci­ple of “amus­ing our­selves to death” in the process of “learn­ing”.
    From dis­cussing sin­gle incomes, start­ing busi­nesses or the deci­sion to home­school or chris­t­ian school, Israel brings the Bible into each topic and relates it in a down to earth way.

    Have you set out to win in the race of rais­ing Godly chil­dren? Then don’t let the cul­ture of the love of afflu­ence entan­gle you. “Where­fore see­ing we also are com­passed about with so great a cloud of wit­ness, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so eas­ily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us” (Hebrews 12:1, KJV) (pg. 112)

    Within the chap­ter of “Keep­ing Your Mar­riage Strong”, Israel and his wife Brook worked together on dis­cussing the top­ics of con­flict, com­mu­ni­ca­tions and close­ness. From yelling, to manip­u­la­tion these two bring many com­mon issues in mar­riage to light and show a way to work them out. This chap­ter is a back and forth for the hus­band and wife to read together if pos­si­ble as it brings Godly wis­dom and com­mon sense together to remind us that we are work­ing together.

    You only need to remem­ber ONE sim­ple but impor­tant point and put it into prac­tice, and you will have a won­der­ful bliss­ful mar­riage: From the moment you are mar­ried, to the moment you die, nei­ther of you can … (pg. 84)

    Full-Time Par­ent­ing, A Family-Based Dis­ci­ple­ship is a great book to show the dis­trac­tions and cures for par­ent­ing in todays cul­ture. For my hus­bands of home­school­ing mom’s out there, I would highly sug­gest this book be added to your tool bag. Israel did an out­stand­ing job of cov­er­ing par­ent­ing from the point of birth to the inevitable “Pass­ing the Baton” into adulthood.

    Chil­dren need their fathers. Chil­dren have legit­i­mate needs that they are unable to meet by them­selves. There becomes a com­pe­ti­tion between the per­ceived needs of the father and the press­ing needs of the child or chil­dren. Some­one will have to be denied. It is a rare father who will deny him­self to care for the needs of the chil­dren entrusted to him. (pg. 33)

    — Steve Blackston

  4. 3 out of 5

    As a homeschool graduate with twenty years of experience, first as student and now as teacher, Israel Wayne provides yet another helpful guide to parents who wish to pass on a Christian faith heritage to their children. With practical advice based on Biblical precepts, he encourages consistency in parenting, especially as more children come along, with periodic review so that the next wave hears the same truths, perhaps for the first time. He reminds parents and children alike that our purpose should be (in his paraphrase):

    “I exist to know, love, and serve God, and in doing that I am equipped to love and serve other people.” (Deut. 10:12-13)

    In chapters entitled, Christian Education Manifesto and Christian Schools Vs. Homeschooling, he uses dozens of supporting Scriptural references regarding child-rearing and training, with that very purpose in mind. In other chapters he shows the breakdown of the family culture through a broad synopsis of the history of education and other milestones leading to the rise of pop culture as surrogate parent; and further urges that even if a school is “Christian,” herd mentality cannot logically be countered in student to teacher ratios of over 20:1. Parenting, thus, is synonymous with teaching, as only a full-time parent can be aware of a child’s trending habits that threaten to become permanent facets of character.

    He reminds us that all areas of life have impact on generations to come, including technology and the dangers of “amusing ourselves to death” under the guise of information, and the importance of relating to humans versus amoral machines; the discipline of rest, not only for our bodies, but perhaps even more for our harried minds, claiming every inch of our thoughts and time for Christ; the surprising benefits of hospitality in raising children’s awareness of culture, the art of conversation, as well as affordable entertainment and travel.

    Though filled with much to think on, one comforting truth rings through these pages, that those who love the Lord have one simple purpose to live and to pass down to their children, and it “’Tis a gift to be simple, ‘tis a gift to be free.’”

    — Adriane Devries

  5. 5 out of 5

    If you’re a typical working parent, according to Israel Wayne’s newest book, Full-Time Parenting A Guide to Family-Based Discipleship, you are spending just 19 minutes per day looking after your own children.

    Pair this statistic with the even more sobering statistics mentioned in his book regarding the number of hours a child spends away from home during the day, hours and type of media consumption and exposure to “non-parental information and life-changing worldviews” and you may not be surprised that according to Mr. Wayne, “65-88% of all Christian youth leave the faith their freshman year of college. ”

    It begs the question, “Did they leave long before then?” What is a concerned parent to do?

    In Full-Time Parenting, A Guide to Family-Based Discipleship, Israel Wayne provides a blue-print to take back the raising of your own children and move from being a “part-time” parent to a “full-time” parent while establishing family-centered discipleship.

    He addresses several areas of concern including
    How to Be the Parent (chapter 1) “Train their hearts, not just their behavior.”
    What is The Father’s Role (chapter 4) “Keep an eternal perspective.”
    Helping the Hyperactive Child (chapter 6) “Training is for the child’s good.”
    Family Culture (chapter 8)
    Technology, Keeping Your Marriage Strong, Education, Parenting by Grace, and more.

    Mrs. Israel Wayne (Brook Wayne) also contributes a chapter on “Living on One Income.” Her insightfulness in addressing underlying reasons couples tend to reject the idea of living on one income and her gentle admonishment to learn to be content is honest and convicting.

    An especially poignant and helpful chapter by Israel Wayne’s mother, Skeet Savage, provides encouragement, comfort, advice and hope for the single parent.

    Though I feel I am a “seasoned” parent and have long embraced the idea of being a full-time parent, Full-Time Parenting, A Guide to Family Based Discipleship was a good reminder that there is still work to be done. I can only say I wish I had had this book 24 years ago when we started our family!

    Full-Time Parenting, A Guide to Family-Based Discipleship is the cure for distracted parenting and is the answer for the cultural war on the family. I highly recommend!

    — Gina Glenn

  6. 5 out of 5

    I really enjoyed reading Full-Time Parenting. I have been a parent for over 18 yrs now (9 children), and I still gleamed wisdom and insight from this book.

    Just loaned it to a young man who wants to learn all he can now, before he becomes a parent someday.

    Thank you Israel!

    • Thank you, Sue! Thank you for reading and sharing!

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